2020 has been a dumpster fire of a year so far. But it seems, at least on the surface, that things are getting better.

Covid numbers, as a whole, are levelling out. Stores and restaurants, entire cities and countries, are opening up. And while it’s still far from what we considered ‘normal’ just months ago, a sense of calm and order are returning. Many who were out of work are heading back, routines are being restored. Stock markets are chaotic but on the rise; the general outlook is optimistic.

But this doesn’t mean things are fine.

As Jerry Garcia famously sang, “Every silver lining’s got a touch of grey.”

Many people are still suffering. Thousands of those hit hardest are struggling to get through each day.

Though things are looking up in a broad sense, we can’t forget the casualties of the last few months. And that’s not taking into consideration those who were already grappling with crises before all this other shit.

People are hurting, maybe now more than they ever have before.

I wrote a similar post when the pandemic first began, but I want to reiterate the importance of paying attention to those around us.

Anthony Bourdain would have turned 64 last week. He appeared to have a perfect life. Yet if ever there were a clearer example of darkness and pain hidden behind a facade of confidence and well-being — he was it.

I’m blessed to have some of the most incredible humans as friends. They’re strong, compassionate, seemingly fearless individuals who I hold in the highest regard, who on the surface appear unconquerable. Yet in recent weeks I’ve learned of some of them are suffering quietly, concealing pain and confusion; feeling adrift in this strange existence.

And I’d be a liar and a hypocrite to pretend that I’m not struggling too. I am far from feeling my best these days. But this isn’t about me. I’ll be alright.

So while the world reopens, and the positive vibes from important global movements flow, remember that not everyone is riding the same wave.

Reach out. Your friends might not feel like talking, but knowing they have someone who can listen might be enough.

Photo by Dawid Zawiła